How Can I Get A Good Style Hair Cut?

I am mixed black and white so I have extremely curly and short hair around the middle of my neck.

I never wear my hair down cause I don't like how it looks and it gets really big. I want to have the right style so that my hair is framed around my face and does not get really poofy.

I also want to know what I could put in my hair to make it less frizzy, softer and silky like people with straight hair.

The only thing is I don't want my hair to be straightened. Many people have told me to do that but I want to wear my hair naturally.

Is it possible?